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You Feel You Have The Right To Judge Me?

Unless you have walked step for step in someone else's shoes, unless you have experienced EVERY experience they have ever experienced, unless you have been subjected or not subjected to EVERY single circumstance in their life, then you don't have the right to judge what they are feeling. You don't have the right to say "Just relax. You need to chill. You worry too much. You are stressing over nothing." You don't have the right to pass judgement on what that individual is experiencing because quite frankly looking from the outside you don't know. You don't know what it feels like to be them in that very moment. You may think you do. You may have an 'idea', but the reality is you don't know. You don't know what brought them to this place. You don't know what decisions put them in this circumstance. And often times, those decisions were not their own but someone else's.

If you don't want to listen to what they have to say - it's your choice to turn a deaf ear. But it's not your right or privilege to tell them how they SHOULD or should NOT feel.

We all need to think before we speak.. myself included. I am guilty of thinking, "wow, this person just needs to get over themselves. Or wow, what a freak". When the truth is, I don't know. I don't know exactly what they are going through, or what they are feeling, or what truly brought them to this low point they are experiencing in their life. But I do know that I don't have the right to judge.

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